Hi all..
Its 20th March
2013. The first ever
International Day of Happiness. It was a few months ago that United
Nations finally marked a day for happiness
too. It is a movement by United Nations to promote happiness as a
universal goal as it is one of the main factors that determine the well
being of humans .
So what is your idea of Happiness?Lemme think... What is it that makes me happy ?Getting to spend quality time with my family
is one. Getting excited and inspired of small things of creativity and getting
engaged in those activities makes me happy. Like blogging for now. The hobbies
may vary with time. But it gives me the same feeling- “Happiness”. Holidays
used to be one of my happiness when I had a job. The feeling of joy when weekend
was about to arrive was so immense.I can see it in my husband who always looks forward
to weekends so that he can relax. Whatever it is, all these things are only a
few of the reasons to be happy.. But if you are not basically happy with your
life , its difficult to find happiness in all the small things around you.
Talking about the happiness
among people who are above the poverty
line ,its sad to know that most of the people are unhappy. So even if we believe that money can buy happiness(Who isn’t
happy if he gets a good pay, a beautiful house, car and all?) its not entirely true to the core.To achieve happiness through out, we have to make it a point to lead a stress free balanced life. Some of the factors I believe
which contributes to happiness are
#1 Job satisfaction: If you are not happy with your job, chances are
you will remain unhappy forever. So take the first step. Do whatever you can to
change the situation. If this is not what you wanted to do, try hard and change the
field. If its not about the field and you are disappointed on the fact
that your sincere work is not being given
much recognition, then discuss with your boss on the matter. If still there is
no benefit, then act fast.Try hard and get
another job and ditch the old company ASAP.Years will be wasted if you are late
in taking action.
#2 Healthy relationship: Wife husband
should be in good terms with each other. I am so lucky to get a loving and
understanding husband. Of course we are just happily married (almost 2 years). Talking about the couples who are married for many years and busy with their kids, Even if they love each other, some of them crave for their old times.The magic disappears when you hoard your feelings. Small gestures of love and care spreads happiness throughout one's life. Say what you feel, serve him the best , be there with him always and he will
be always there for you. I believe it’s a give and take policy! After all this relationship is not like that of a mother and a kid where mother is willing to do anything for her kid, expecting nothing in return. No person is perfect. I have negatives. He also has negatives.But if we fairly complement each other, that makes a happy, good couple.
#3 Stop worrying: Now this is an area
where I have to put effort and more practice. I m basically an easily worried
person. I get easily tensed thinking how some things gonna work out? What
should I actually decide about it? And the endless list of questions arise in
my mind despite the fact that I am a true God believer. I know I should leave
everything to God.Yeah that’s what I do.But the fact remains that we just
cant sit idle leaving everything to God. God wants us to take decisions when
the situation demands.And we should truly believe in that
decision once we take it.
#4 Stress management: I think am ok in it.One big piece of advice from my husband is to never ever allow job stress to creep over our family life. Stress should be managed somehow, frustrations should not be thrown over your family. It will ruin the happy family life.
#5 Spirituality and gratitude: Believe in God. Spirituality is a must for a balanced life and
the hereafter. I do pray to the Almighty Allah. But I wish I could dedicate more
time in spirituality. Its one of my constant resolutions which of course is never
maintained. Sometimes for a week I stick to the routine of reading good books
on it and then again I will be back to my old routine .mm.. wish I could do
something to improve my determination.Speaking about gratitude we should always
feel thankful to God. There may be hardships in life.But remember all the good things you have which most of the
people in this world don’t have. Shelter, food and family are truly blessings from God.
#6 Do good deeds: Serve others. Make it a practice to give
more.Of course, in todays world if you are too good
people will see you as a doormat .Dont let others walk over you.But its
good to be good.Do good, be good and you will feel good about yourself.When you
find out you make others happy, you will feel happy yourself.
#7 Avoid shopaholism: I wasn’t and I am never much of a
shopaholic. So I believe I don’t have to improve much in this area. Yeah we all
know that it gives us a happy feeling when we buy something new. But I believe one should strictly refrain from being a shopaholic. When you buy something it gives you only temporary happiness
and then what? You will have to go buy something again to make yourself happy.
Its time for a thought for the shopaholics out there. Ask yourself “ Don’t I
have enough items in my possession?Adding something to my already big
collection of shoes/clothes/accessories is what that really makes me happy?Thinking of all the blessings I already have, isnt more than enough for me to be happy?"
These are only a few things now i can think of.
What do YOU think that makes you happy?
